It’s been a really fun thought process for me to think about what details to share with you on marriage. Or what the 10 most impactful things are that I have learned throughout the last decade…definitely insightful to look inward into my own beliefs on what makes my beloved and my marriage work.
I really try to focus on spending time with my beloved, and each of my boys seperately. Throughout the week there are little breaks in our crazy schedules that allow me to focus on them one on one, even if for only 20 or 30 minutes. Riding bikes with one little guy while the other one of my kiddos is at robotics…or sneaking Rita’s (Italian Ice) with the other just for a little mom and son time is important. Spending that alone time with my husband is equally as important. I can’t tell you the last time we had a legitimate date, but I can tell you that we spend a lot of time in each other’s company when the boys have gone to bed, climbing at the gym or even doing the dishes. 20 minutes just talking about our grownup real life is vital to our relationship…or even, just sitting in silence. Making each other a priority, in silence, or chaos, has been an awesome key to making us work.
So often we think of fairytale marriages as grand gestures, and big over the top moments. For me, it’s been sitting in silence, holding his hand, reflecting on the life I only one day dreamt of.